Our children are our teachers in many ways. They teach us unconditional love, by reminding us that they are not responsible for our happiness. If you want to be the best parent you can be, make yourself happy and be the demonstrator of your own alignment with the Vortex. In this video, Abraham-Hicks explains how to apply the Law of Attraction and the power of influence when it comes to parenting. Don’t forget to read the summary below!
Summary: Abraham-Hicks – Parenting in the Vortex
To illustrate how a child teaches unconditional love, Abraham-Hicks gives us an example from a conversation between a mother and her four-year-old daughter. The conversation takes place when the daughter isn’t behaving and doing things that is driving her mother crazy.
“Mummy, it’s important that you stay happy even if I am unhappy. I want to hear your happy voice”, the child says.
“That is the craziest thing I have ever heard. You are driving me up a wall. How can I be happy?”, the parent wonders.
When a child is behaving badly and you as a parent are getting frustrated or irritated or angry, you hold your child responsible for your happiness. In this example, the child reminds her mother that it isn’t her job to make her mummy happy. The child explains with clarity: “Don’t make me responsible for how you feel.”
You are responsible for how you feel, not your child or anyone else. Only you can make yourself happy. Your happiness is in the Vortex. Your answer is in the Vortex. The power of influence is about taking responsibility of your own feeling and tending to your own Vortex. When you are happy, your child will pick up on your positive vibration, and give you more of the same.
When a child is outside the Vortex, the difference between how they are custom to feel and how they are feeling, is so strong that they can hardly bear it – so their response is to scream.
As we grow up, we learn to be tolerant of that discomfort and we learn to behave in the middle of our tantrums. Instead of expressing our feelings out loud, we adults behave and hold our feelings inside, which destroys us from inside. Our children remind us that it is OK to express our feelings. If you don’t give yourself permission to express your feelings, you just prolong the bad feeling. When you are not in the Vortex, scream! When you express your feelings and scream, you don’t keep your negative feelings inside. Say: “This is off! I don’t want this!”.
After screaming, don’t forget to get back in to the Vortex. Children quickly change focus to something that feels better. This is something we adults also have to learn. Children know that they are suppose to feel good and look for something else to focus on so they feel better.
When you express what you don’t want, you feel better. The release helps you to shift your attention and start focusing on what you do want. Now your job is to quickly get back in to the Vortex by choosing thoughts that feel better and by focusing on positive aspects.
If you want to be the best parent you can possibly be, mind you own business and tend to your own Vortex and let the child do the same. Teach through your own examples, and not through your words. Be the manager of your own thoughts and feelings, and become a deliberate creator who is happy in the Vortex . Your child will soon understand the Law of Attraction by observing you. This is the power of influence is all about!
When your child want things that you can’t possibly give, don’t worry because you are not the only Vortex through which desires can flow. Focus on the perfection of your child’s desire but remove your responsibility from being the avenue through which it would flow. Encourage them to speak of what they want and teach them to harmonize with what they want. Watch together with your child through which avenue things will flow. The child will then feel a very satisfying independence while discovering that the Universe respond in many different ways in order to manifest a dream.
“The best parent you can be means understanding that their desire will bring them whatever they want and that their “alignment” is necessary and that you are not responsible for their alignment. But you can be a demonstrator of your own alignment. That’s the best that a parent can be – a demonstrator – a consistent, constant demonstrator of being in your own Vortex.”